A sort of uneventful November… which is good!

For the past couple years, I’ve been dreading October and November. Since my mom passed away really. I’ve had my share of surprises during these months, usually not the good kind. This year is different! This October was magical and this November has been been uneventful… sort of! Which is such a relief!

Went to an art show and it was fun!

Nugget of wisdom: Stay if everything is a YES

I read this quote, somewhere, that you should only stay is everything is a YES. It might have been in a book, it might have been on Insta. I don’t recall. But I do recall in that moment, I realised I need to move because everything isn’t a yes with our apartment.

Now, please, like with any short quote of the sort, it needs to be applied with a good grain of salt.

I do believe it is fundamentally true. Whether you want to apply this to your job, your partner, other types of relationships, or even your gym membership. Surely in an ideal world, your job should tick your requirements in that field. Surely, you should only stay with your partner if they tick all of your boxes.

But there is a catch, this is in an ideal world only! There will always be circumstances where your job will not be your dream job, just as there will always be circumstances where your partner will annoy the hell out of you. Should you instantly move on? Probably not but it can certainly be something you consider.

It may not always be in your best interest to just move on without having learned the lesson there is to learn in such experience.

As an example, here I am in our new apartment, wearing my Loop earplugs, while typing these words. We moved in less than 2 years ago and since our downstair neighbours moved in, I have been through my personal hell. When the police came a couple months back because of their fighting, I thought the problems was solved. Unfortunately, even if he never came back, almost nothing has changed. And every day feels like they is a hoard of wild animals tearing the apartment apart, while trying to escape.

This is a big, big no for me. And I haven’t yet even mentioned the smell!

Am I moving tomorrow? No! Absolutely not. Market isn’t favourable. I have to financially & emotionally recover from the expenses incurred with this investment and most importantly I have to identify what I want.

I refuse to take a swift decision which could be detrimental to me, because of them.

This apartment is not the place where everything is a yes. But I had to be here to learn it, to understand it, to see the pattern (it isn’t the first time we are greatly bothered by our downstair neighbours) and decide where to next.

Amongst other things, I’m also learning about sound insulation! That’s a plus right?!

So you see, maybe you should only stay if something is mostly YES and define how many No you are ready to accept. Once you got that, work on your goal to find the thing that has more YES!

Achievements and Gratefulness

Let me start by saying that I am grateful my last trip to London was not as emotional as the previous ones. It has been draining, it hasn’t been fun to have to go and never get to enjoy anything. This trip was only different in the sense that I didn’t cry! That’s a start!!

When Guy Falkes celebrations happen in your backyard!

After a restful October, I was ready to tackle more tasks. Ready to work out more, ready to get back on my improvement path. Sounds weird, I know, but I’m on a mission to do things better, big things, small things… it doesn’t matter. I revamped my cashflow/budget spreadsheet for next year, for example. Restructuring the view I have on my finances significantly. I can’t wait to start using this new improved version.

Progresses were made on my 2nd motorcycle renovation! OMG finally! Yep, you had not heard about this for a few month because, well, nothing was happening.

My dad and I grilled chestnut and I roamed around in my witchy outfit scaring wild life slightly, maybe. It was fun! I know you know I’m a little crazy!

I meditated some more.

Some required decluttering was done, especially because I had done something a little stupid! Well stupid for someone who brags about having managed a full year no buy challenge. Yet I’m not really ashamed. I think I made good choices, mostly useful.

Oh and something definitively happened! And OMG I’m so excited and so stressed and so happy!!

Overall, I have felt more at peace.

What I’m reading

72 Keys to Manifestation by Mariya Nurislamova. I started recently, so I can’t comment yet. But I have been doing some of her guided meditations and always felt better afterward.